If you want to believe what Hollywood has been shoving down people’s throats for decades now, you’ll buy into the idea that sex is the bottom line of life. It’s the ultimate, according to them; the end result of everything that makes existence worthwhile. The only thing that competes with it, in Hollywood’s twisted view, is violence. Since sex is King (and Queen), true lovemaking has been lost. What we see now, in most movies where any type of romance is exhibited, is a couple slamming together with wide open mouths for what is deemed a kiss. Their hands are tearing at each other’s clothes and as they gasp their way through moans and groans, they are moving as fast as they can toward the bedroom – or they may bypass the bedroom and do it right there, standing, sitting or otherwise.
The beautiful nuances that bind a woman and a man together in true love, the tenderness, sweetness and gentleness, is lost to the hot and heavy for the moment. A married couple who uses the movies as their inspiration is not going to end up very happy. It’s far better to learn to make love, rather than just have raw sex.
Now, don’t get us wrong. There is a time and place for hot and heavy, passionate sex between a husband and a wife. But if that is the only kind of sex you know or want, your relationship will be the poorer for it. After all, if that kind of sex was the answer, why is the divorce rate in Hollywood through the roof?
Making love is a man’s way of expressing his deep love for his wife. Many women do not realize that this is as important to him as it is.. That’s assuming he truly does love her. Being made love to by the man who loves her and whom she loves, gives a woman much assurance that she desperately needs. It makes her feel protected, desirable, secure and beautiful.
It is essential that he meet her emotional needs even when he isn’t making love to her. When he doesn’t is when she has trouble believing that his lovemaking is anything more than his satisfying his own desires and physical need. At that point she begins to resent him and sex.
Most men want their wives to desire them and enjoy sex. Where a man goes awry in the matter is thinking that sexual expression does it for his wife emotionally. According to his own standards he satisfies her sexually and he works hard to provide her with a comfortable home. He’s wrong. It is essential that he meet her emotional needs even when he isn’t making love to her. When he doesn’t is when she has trouble believing that his lovemaking is anything more than his satisfying his own desires and physical need. At that point she begins to resent him and sex.
If all of your sexual encounters are purely physical you truly do not know what you are missing. You are making holes in the dike that holds back a sea of discontent and boredom that occurs in far too many marriages. Men, learn how to make love the right way, not only in bed but leading up to the moment and your wife will adore you. We have a lot on that in our books written just for guys, as well as additional material at www.LoveRelationshipHeadquarters.com.
Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com
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