Are your relationships ruined by your possessiveness and jealousy? Many are and it can become a problem that repeats itself over and over damaging the relationship beyond saving. By being over possessive you are giving your partner the clear signal that you simply do not trust them and this is a horrible thing to tell someone that you may love.
How do you react if your partner calls or texts you during the day saying that they feel ill and would rather stay in tonight than meet up?
a) You storm over and let them both know in no uncertain terms that you are not going to put up with it? b) You make you way over, say hi and join in the conversation but politely let the ex know that your partner is spoken for? c) Carry on with your night out and decide that you’ll catch up with your partner later. After all they will probably tell you what it was all about?
If your reaction is to drive to their house and check that they are ill then this is certainly showing signs of being over possessive. Your immediate thought is that of not trusting what they are saying to you is true, and that they must be doing something else, maybe seeing an ex or going out with someone else. So why are you reacting in this way? Well most insecure people have at some point in their lives had some kind of emotional trauma. This can go way back to their earliest childhood memories but something will have happened that hurt, and that caused them to distrust someone that they loved.
If you are over possessive in your relationships then try and take a minute to your self. Now think way back to your earliest thoughts and relationships and work your way forward to present day. Is there a blip somewhere along the way that makes you feel upset or bad? It can be something very small that you wouldn’t believe could be a problem. The chances are that you can identify what has caused your insecurity and that you can work with this to help stop your possessive reactions.
A good method to explore your inner self is through simple a self hypnosis technique. Take time out for yourself and work out why you are jealous and possessive in your relationships.
