If you bombard your ex with your neediness dripping all over you, I'm
sorry but you don't stand a chance coming out on top.
"No Contact" rule
works during a break up?
may not completely understand it right now but this No Contact to get your ex back strategy will help
you BOTH resolve the confusion and gives you a greater
chance to get your ex back.
pressing. Stop asking questions. Stop wriggling out any assurance.
aren't attracted to desperation because it is seen as a burden and a
chore. Similarly, people are attracted to independence, forward
thinking and determination.
for patience because this is a huge task you need to do if you want to
be together again. This will take some effort.
them the space they need. The quiet moments to truly hear their hearts.
your ex learn about TRUE love. Don't get in the way.
by little you will begin to realize the extreme importance of your
overall plan that you quiet yourself and have CONTROL. Have the
confidence that what your beloved is going through will pass.
NO CONTACT Rules:
give yourself 30 days.
includes not looking at pictures, or anything that reminds you
of your time together.
not go to places that you used to frequent with your ex or they will go
to, hoping to "accidentally" bump into them.
tell your ex that you want NC. Let your actions speak for you.
your ex contacts you (phone, email, text message) unless it's a matter
of life and death, you can NOT respond. PERIOD. (They noticed
you're not around. Your lover would retreat again once they
SECURITY of knowing you're still there silently waiting. NOT
Let go. Your ex has a line in the water. Don't
you do...don't reply! Don't give them the opportunity to make
you feel desperately sad, AGAIN! Stay in charge.
Keep the power. Keep control. Keep NC.
write how you feel and what happened with your day.
moments of weakness, call for back up. Get some friends over
or see if you can make a trip to a friend's place.
30 days, read your journal and write something based on what you felt
on the first day and how you feel 30 days after.
for a moment, that it's a month from today... your guy or gal will be
the one pulling all the stops just to hear your voice or receive
even a simple "hello" text message from you.
you're done with your No Contact to get your ex back, you can
start to reply to your lover's
phone messages or email if it "deserves"
Sure That Each Communication Does HONOR To You.
REMINDER: You should
NOT just use the No Contact rule as a bargaining chip to get
your ex back. I told you,
this isn't about "game
This is also YOU showing
teaching other people in your quiet dignified way how you should
be treated without saying a word.
Don't overthink stuff,
if you do, you'll get nowhere. What is laid out before you is the EXACT
process that realistically helped others recapture their lover's heart
- copy it and you will also get their results.